Introduction-
First-Time Sex, Be it before marriage or after marriage, there is a lot of taboo around it. Both Male or Female are anxious for the “First Time”. It is very important to talk about this because we get all the knowledge from the videos with secret folders. “Which is as close to the truth as a cat is to becoming a fish—just not going to happen.”
Where a male is always concerned about his Size and performance, a Female has some other concerns in their mind, i.e., What if I get pregnant after my first-time sex? Will it be very painful? And so on…..
We are talking about first-time sex because to cook food, we need ingredients and techniques, and even if you bring the best ingredients in the world, if the technique is not good, then the food will not be good.
I hope this article will assist all these first-timers and help them to have a great experience when they are going to get intimate for the first time, not with the numerous questions and anxiety in their mind.
let’s start with the basics, not A B C, and D, but the three C’s, Which are
Consent, Condom & Comfort.
The combination of these three things will make your first-time sex woohoo.
The Fundamentals: Consent & Communication
so first, let’s talk about First “C” CONSENT: There are people who say to their partners if you love me ‘you will say YES to it. They get consent by force, and it is not right at all. Especially when it comes to sex, it is very important and intimate.
If there is a chance, then please try; you must get the consent of your partner; this means that before every step, you can ask your partner if this is okay: can I do this? Can I kiss you? Can I go ahead? It is a very simple thing. If you think that asking this will spoil your mood, then it is not at all true. “your partner will really appreciate that you’re putting my comfort and consent first.”
Unfortunately, sexual assault happens to many people, whether it is in childhood, whether it is in adulthood, whether it is in a relationship, whether it is in marriage. It’s a very common thing, so give your partner the bare minimum basic respect.
It is not that only boys should ask for consent from girls; every partner should always ask for consent from their partner so that everyone remains happy and comfortable.
Preparation is the Key: Safe Sex
Let’s talk about the Second “C” CONDOMS:
It is very important to talk about condoms, especially for first-time sex, because you do not want to have a child the first time. It Protects not only from unwanted pregnancy but also from sexually transmitted infections. Sexually transmitted infection(STI), i.e. an infection that is transmitted through sex.
But condoms are a device that can protect you from infections spread through sex. This is the only contraceptive in the world that can do this.
In using condoms, you should use condoms during all types of sex, like oral, anal and vaginal, because STIs can spread in any way. When you use condoms at the time of oral sex, you have to wear the condom throughout the act. Flavouring is added so that there is no rubber taste in it.
If you are going from oral to vaginal sex, then change the condom. If you are having vaginal sex and going to have anal sex, then change the condom. In simple words, this means While changing the hole, please change your condom because, in this way, we can prevent infections.
Condoms are often lubricated, so what happens with this is that a little slipperiness is added, which makes the act a little more comfortable.
Comfort
Now comes the third “C” which is the most important COMFORT:
It is very important to be comfortable because what happens without comfort is that If you have a male partner, he may face difficulty in getting an erection.
When our body is stressed, our blood pressure increases; our blood vessels are not so relaxed at this time, so blood flow decreases. Thereby, there are chances of no proper erection.
Erection occurs in the penis in such a way that the blood vessels there open up, and a lot of blood reaches to the penis and gets trapped there; due to this, the penis becomes hard.
Many people must have experienced that if you are very anxious or under a lot of stress, then you will not get an erection. You will have performance anxiety.
Similarly, this can happen with a female partner because of their pelvic floor, i.e., the vaginal opening, which is the genital area. It can be very tight. As you think, if a bike is going very fast and you are sitting on that bike, you are feeling scared. Then, the first thing we do is clinch our jaws, and the muscles there become very tight.
If you are stressed or feeling anxious, the muscles of the pelvic floor also become tight, so the first thing that can happen is that sex can become very painful and even impossible. The second thing can happen is that your vagina does not lubricate properly.
Our body is very smart; there is an adaptation inside the vagina through evolution in which our vagina secretes a natural liquid, due to which sex becomes easy and it becomes slippery.
Take an example: If you try to wear a tight ring, now if you keep inserting it forcefully, then your finger might get hurt. At the same time, if you apply a little lubrication, then the ring will go on easily. Our body also secretes a natural lubricant through the vagina so that the penis or finger does not face any problems in going inside.
Two things are very important for this natural lubrication. First, your body is comfortable and relaxed, and second, you are aroused (turned on). Once aroused, the vagina opens up and creates extra space at the top as well.
So these are three C’s which are very important for making first-time sex experience pleasurable.
Post-Sexual Health and Aftercare
Sex can be deeply personal and intense, so checking in and making sure your partner feels cared for afterwards helps everyone feel good about the experience. Taking care of each other afterwards enhances relationship satisfaction and is something that anyone can offer or benefit from.
There might be chances of little pain after First-time sex, which is absolutely normal. it generally fades away in days or two. If the pain is more intense and lasts for many days, you should seek the help of a healthcare provider.
Hydrate– Drink plenty of water after sex to rehydrate and replace the fluids you lost during the activity.
Hygiene– Wash your genitals with lukewarm water, try not to use any soap or intimate wash it may cause dryness.
Conclusion-
First-time sex will be pleasurable once both partners are mentally and physically ready for it, which also means that you first obtain the consent of your partner and then proceed gradually in the process.
Plenty of foreplay, hugging, kissing, and cuddling are very important for proper arousal and for the body to get ready for it; in the process, genitals secrete lubricants that help in the smooth entry. Some water-based lubricants can also be used externally.
Using a condom is a must. It prevents many sexually transmitted infections, I.e., HIV, syphilis, genital herpes, and many more, and prevents getting pregnant.
Suppose the condom bursts or ruptures during sex. In that case, it is advisable to seek healthcare provider help to avoid pregnancies, or some over-the-counter emergency contraceptive pills are also available, which can be taken within 72 hours of intercourse.
